Serious Marriage Issues

Infidelity

In a recent survey around 50% of both married men and women admitted to having had sexual relations with someone else at some time during their marriage. In over 30% of the cases, the innocent spouse was totally unaware of their partner’s infidelity. Many of these extramarital relationships were a one off and did not become affairs as such.
Admitting to a spouse that you have had a sexual encounter with another person doesn’t necessarily spell the end of a marriage but it does raise serious issues that need to be dealt with if marriage is to survive.

Addictions

Many partners have the same or similar addictions; the problem arises when one party has an addiction that the other finds overwhelming. Addictions such as drug and/or alcohol abuse, gambling, pornography, sex and even sport and work are the main ones that we counsel on.
Some addictions are easily detected or are even obvious and admitted however that doesn't make them any easier to bear. In our experience drug, alcohol and gambling addictions will eventually be become apparent.

A suspecting partner should look for these signs as an indicator of an addiction problem:

* Mood swings, irritability or unexplained aggression.
* Lack of interest in their appearance?
* Ignoring your and the family.
* Unexplained absences from home or late arrival home.
* Physical signs such as red eyes, dilated pupils, sweating even in cool weather, needle marks, weight loss. Among other things these can also be signs of substance abuse.
* Have a look around the house and garage and rubbish bin for bottles, needles and gambling chits.
* Do their prescription medications seem to be being finished very quickly?
* Are they ignoring their friends and associating with people that you are not familiar with?
* Review your bank account at frequent intervals to ensure that there are no unexplained withdrawals.
* Have you noticed any signs of alcohol on your partner's breath or any signs of slurring their words?
* Has your partner lost interest in their job in doing any chores around the house?
* Does you partner find it difficult to get up in the morning?
* Do they regularly take “sickies” to avoid going to work

Several of the above could be signs of other problems rather than addiction, however regardless of the reason or cause; you are most certainly heading for a marriage crisis unless professional help is sought.

Violent Behavior

This is a most serious issue and is a matter that must be dealt with in the very early stages of development. Don't try to cope with physical or mental violence on your own. Seek professional help with the highest degree of urgency. We are aware of situations where the abused partner has been maimed for life or even killed.

Most western countries have a help phone line - use it. In our experience domestic abuse tends to only get worse over time. If you have children, they are also suffering abuse if you are. The impact on children of an abusive spouse can be far reaching with children sometimes emulating the abuser when they reach adulthood. You have a responsibility to protect your children from the effects that your abusive relationship may have on them.

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